DEAR WOMAN.

You're holding your phone, as your thumb scrolls down your feed. You don't know it yet but these words will find you when you least expect it. You've lost sleep this year. You've  been burt a lot this year. And though I'm just a stranger, my word are familiar to your heart. We always meet like this, you scrolling up and down your TL and here is everything you needed to read at the exact moment when you need it most. 

You are magic in a world that has yet to realise it and you matter even when others take your presence for granted. 

Your love is powerful, your time holds value and your existence means everything. I hope you understand that inside your heart lives the strength to overcome all this pain and sadness you've felt. 

You have courage and you have been brave. You have tried and tried but your effort will never matter to those who are unworthy of you and your love. 

2020 has just kicked off and were not so deep into the year. It's time to choose yourself. 

I just hope I've made a difference in your life. If these messages helped atleast one person, then I've done my job. To the woman reading this, I wish you nothing but peace and I want you to know that you are capable of self love and self healing. You are fully capable of whatever it is you need in order to move forward with your life. You are powerful and courageous. You survive as the warrior within you continues to fight. There is a light that dwells within you and it is time to shine it on yourself. 

REASONS WHY SCHOOL LIFE WAS BETTER THAN CAMPUS LIFE.

Ssup loyal fam, I know it's been a while since I put up something for you guys but worry no more. Unlike most people, I sincerely have to admit, primary and High school were far much better than the university/college terms 'memories'. Here's why I'm saying all this. 

1.Doing prank calls during university/college hours in campus is okay but doing some epic pranks around the dormitories, class and lying to guys during visiting days had it's own fun😂.

2.Cake cutting and all the weed and booze and the huge treats on a birthday is fun😊but roaming through the entire school and all classes distributing sweets and hiding the 'cake' and juice to have later one with the 'real ones' had it's own perks. 

3.Acting innocent to slip out of a punishment is okay but getting caught by your favorite teacher and thus leaving without any punishment had it's own luck😂.

4.Skiving classes is fun but roaming around because you're "looking" for the teacher who you even don't want in class😂in the name of "fulfilling your duty as a class prefect" had it's own pride moments. 

5.Blackmailing to complain to the authorities is justified but blackmailing to get their names on the "Noisemakers" list held it's own innocent naughtiness😂😂.

6.Being appreciated by the professor and lecturers every now and then gives joy😅(I've never experienced it though) but being called as "teachers favorite " had its own happiness. 

7.Avoiding professors calling your name by a professor is Okay but getting called by name for doing you assignments perfectly during school days were just moments of pride😅especially Mathematics. 

8.Low attendence, late submissions and backlogs during the last year are fearful😅but frankly speaking  school parents teachers meeting depicted real fear😑.

9.Posing for hundreds of selfies might feel trendy but everyone looking at the camera at the same time with a puppy face with the "say cheese" smile for a class photograph either for the school mags or random pictures was waaayyyy Classic. 

True or False??? Leave a comment if you get nostalgic memories 🌾

ONE LAST TIME.

Set up the alarm,

For starting your 6AM life. 

Wake up to get ready for school, 

For one last time. 

Get on the school bus, 

Walk alongside friends,

For that's the time when everything looks funny on the road. 

Get to school. 

That place you hate when you're alone, 

But the best place you'd ever wanna be with friend around, 

For one last time. 

Walk on those long corridors, 

Which never felt so long when kneeling down with friends, 

Because you were laughing the loudest and having fun instead of studying 

Sharing your yesterday, 

Planning your tomorrow's and living every today, 

As it never felt wrong. 

Polish your shoes, 

Then stand in the line, 

March smartly for the assembly, 

For one last time. 

Now remember the scolding, 

For not standing heightwise because you stuck to your buddy, 

Stretching out your arms for your nails to get checked, 

But now the teacher only requests for us to be quite. 

Breaktime munchies will be waiting for you, 

Also everyone will be looking in your tin for what's new, 

But only that one special boy/girlfriend would taste anyway. 

Suffer with those multiple stomach and headaches, 

To avoid the long speeches in the bright sunshine, 

And laugh at your classmates, 

For one last time. 

Study seriously in the first class, 

And jot down the notes, 

As from the second lesson,

Outside the class you'll float. 

"The bell already rang, we are late... "

Panic, before entering the class, 

For one last time. 

As the bell for "break time " strikes, 

The entire school seems to have a new life, 

Friends bonding over, 

After what seems like years. 

Only happiness and joy being re-created, 

Without even a tinge of sorrows and tears. 

Go gossip and giggle, 

And create memories infinite, 

Snatch and steal stuff from your friends tins, 

For one last time.

Ask your juniors to call you out, 

To show them how cool you are, 

Dodge that class with that girl❤

Tell her how you always feel bout her, 

Kiss her💘

As time is running fast. 

Pointing out the flaws of our school, 

And comparing it everytime, 

To schools we wish we were in. 

But fight with the outsiders, 

Saying a word against it. 

As it's "our place",

For one last time, 

During the games period, 

Sometimes playing, 

And other times discussing it's features, 

While walking around, 

Being so lost in the place, 

And still being found...... 

(Continues later. Writer became too emotional to continue.....) 

DON'T STRESS 2020.

Talking with a friend and she asked about how at peace I've looked and been. I took minding my own business to heart since 2020 kicked off. Some 14 days down the line. I've lived off-line and only shared the ring with people who showed up to fight with me. I learnt a few things the previous year though. Allow me to talk about them. 

1.Not everyone deserves access to every detail of your existence. I know social media is forcing this authentic and transparent narrative, but there is still magic in maintaining your mystery. Authenticity doesn't need to be loud. 

2.I ran my own race. I don't care about who's ahead, besides or behind. I've been so focused on my own race, I haven't allowed any room to be distracted by who else is running. Comparison slows you down, I'm focused. Less social media usage in the past 13 days has helped. 

3.Understand order. You cannot be the intern and the boss all at once. We are all being forced/shamed into thinking we must do it all now and everyone wants to be the boss now. This year, I found joy being the student and mastering the level I'm currently at.

4.I give people room to be exactly who they are. It doesn't mean I have to stick around to watch them be it. Every person in my life, I've chosen them to be there. 

5.I know what I want, but I know I'm not ready to handle the version of my life I'm pursuing. It is grace to be able to not yet have all I want, because I'm still working on becoming the dude that can handle it. Knowing that makes it easier to not rush anything. 

6.Respect the timing of your life. Mind your business. Run your own race. Save your coins. Live low-key. Show up for the people that matter. Practice discipline. Eat well. Smoke that joint⚡.Drink that water. Become competent. Check your character. Be greatful. 

I know 2020's gon be a good one🌴🌊✨

HOW TO FIND CLARITY.

This morning, I am thinking about clarity. From Hazy to clear. 

°I am thinking back to a time in 2017 when I was so clear on what I wanted in life. I had so much FOCUS and INTENTION. 

°what I am learning from my past self to incoprate clarity today. 

Clarity is about having laser sharp focus and belief in what you are doing. 

•Pour it all out. 

•Write it down. 

•What do you want, where are you? 

•Get the "noise" out of your head on paper or on your computer! 

Answer questions like 

•How does the next 6 months look like? 

•What do I have to do today. 

•What is my WHY? 

•How do I get from where I am to where I wanna be? 

•What do I need to cut off? 

•What do I need to incoprate? 

Realise that sometimes you do not need more information /motivation/resources.You need to become resourceful. 

•Resourcefulness is a mind-set. Believing that you can start where you are with what you have. 

•An attitude of resourcefulness inspires out-of-the-box thinking. 

Don't wait for clarity to come in your life. Create the discipline of finding it. 

•By your habit. 

•By being intentional. 

•By having good decisions. 

•By consuming the right things. 

A big part of finding clarity is also reducing the noise. The distractions. Declutter your space, desk, computer, social media feed and ultimately your mind. Focus on what's important.

What are your values? What is mostly important to you? eg Freedom, purpose, autonomy, adventure, family, happiness? Your goals need to be congruent to that. 

Figure out what you need to develop. It could be a skill or a habit. You now have a vision, your why and what you need to master. Now the most important part is the implementation. Start small and see how confident you become when you get a microwin. Increase your microwins. You are like 5 or 50 microwins away from your big break. Don't dismiss your small wins. Celebrate them and learn to be greatful. They will bring you closer to your big break. So go out there and find clarity today

CONSENTUAL SEX AND RAPE.

I've had conversations with my male friends about sex. From these conversations, I've come to appreciate that many don't know that they rape women, and are unbothered about it and this comes with much arrogance and entitlement. 

Entitlement. 

Some friends have said things like "my crib, my rules." If a lady accepts to visit, she has consented to sex. Guys make prior preparations for these visits, including buying alcohol so as to get the victim intoxicated and easy to sleep with. 

Arrogance.

If a lady visitor is not playing by, refuses to take the alcohol, calls out the guy on a being touchy, refuses to enter the bedroom or asks that the highly sexual movie he has asked that they watch together be changed, she MUST leave. Yeah, it happens but I know girls never tell their tales on this issues. 

Guys also try to keep ladies at their houses till it's too late that they will fear to leave alone. A night in a guys bed is assumed as consent. He will try everything to have sex with the lady, getting violent at times or even chasing you out of his crib when it's too late. 

When you listen to some of the stories my peers tell, there are some who praise themselves for having tried all night and 'getting lucky' like at 5am. Some even will tell you that she wasn't wet enough, she just lay there like a dead body.... I mean, you wanna fuck someone who isn't interested. What do you expect? 

Explaining to my peers that this is rape is a hustle😂😕.In fact, telling male friends that a lady visited,she slept in your bed but you didn't have any sex because she refused or wasn't ready attracts condemnation and insults. Been there.... 

The expectation of sex from any female that responds to a WhatsApp message is the beginning of rape. A young man who thinks every female visitor must be fucked, is a rapist waiting for the next victim. 😕

ALL YOU GOT TO KNOW ABOUT HAPPINESS.

Whether you're single, married, divorced or not in a relationship at all be happy. Happiness is not defined by relationship status. It's a personal desicion. There are happy singles, married and divorced people as there are equally unhappy ones. 

Happiness is a personal responsibility. I was a happy single dude and I remain a happy dude despite my relationship status. By the way, dating didn't or hasn't made me happy, it only multiplied it because my girl brought her own happiness too. Whether you own those cool sneakers, cool accessories, a car, bike or none, be HAPPY. 

There are many jet owners who are unhappy. In fact, generally available statistics have shown higher rates of depression amongst the "haves".I mean, it is a existence when ones happiness is anchored on such material things. 

Oh yes, material things, money being the fountainhead provide comfort and conveniences but many are unhappily comfortable. Use money and material things for what they are; means and resources. No more, no less. 

Now, be wary of many fake social media users that put you under pressure to acquire this/that to signify you are "Young, rich and Trendy, " leading you to unnecessary depression. You will buy those kicks and own those gold chains. That car. That lady. You will when you need to and have the means. 

Not having one doesn't mean you aren't "Cool".If owning cool stuff and every pretty thing were the yardstick of measuring being rich and classy, just imagine how rich many if not every Instagrammer is. 

Religion has taught many to feel cursed when they go through normal life challenges in varied forms, and to feel blessed only when there is money in their pockets. 

If people you know buy awsome stuff, genuinely be happy for them. Rejoice with them with sincierity but STOP using it to measure your life. There is no specific year designated for you to buy all that "awsome stuff" or be financially rich. These things happen largely by what you do with a sense of good timing. So don't let any person put unnecessary pressure on you. Many challenges you face are meant to strengthen, enrich and Bless you. STOP RUNNING AWAY FROM THEM. Though many of them too can be as a result of stupidity, folly, pride, greed and procrastination. 

You will be fine ,but first, be HAPPY, and at PEACE. PEACE is especially the reward of doing the right thing and it all begins when your words and actions are mostly in harmony. 

Watch, listen, meditate, buy wisdom and sell it NOT.Apply wisdom. Send out positive thoughts and energy into the world and towards others 💯.Conspire against no one. Live in the moment. The moment was once the tomorrow and future you postponed your happiness to. Now it is here⚡.Drink, eat and merry in it,for it is good and a blessing to be able to enjoy what one has laboured for.

Now GO and LIVE life🌴🌊.

MAKING THE RIGHT DECISION.

Making the right decision. 

Put a frog into a vessel full of water and start heating the water. As the temperature of the water begins to rise, the frog adjust it's body temperature accordingly. 

The frog keeps adjusting it's body temperature with the increasing temperature of the water. Just when the water is about to reach boiling point, the frog cannot adjust anymore. At this point the frog decides to jump. 

The frog tries to jump but it is unable to do so because it has lost all it's strength in adjusting with the rising water temperature. Very soon the frog dies. What killed the frog?  Think about it. I know many of us will say the boiling water. 

But the truth about what killed the frog was it's own inability to decide when to jump out. We all need to adjust with people and situations, but we need to be sure when we need to adjust and when we need to move on. 

There are times when we need to face the situation and take appropriate actions. If we allow people to exploit us physically, emotionally, financially, spiritually or mentally they will continue to do so. 

Let's jump while we still have the strength. 

Feel free to share if you feel like sharing. 

TELL THEM THIS.

"Youth is the gift of nature, but age is a work of art."~Stanislaw Jerzylec. 

Things I want my child to know about life. 

•Moments pass. This too will pass. 

•What they say is required is not what is required. 

•The whole world is not looking at you. 

•Good news😊:You have a lot of years ahead of you. 

•Bad news😑:Those will start passing more quickly. 

•Do not use humor as a weapon. Employ it as self defence. 

•Master a skill, then master another. 

•Don't burn bridges. You may need them sooner than you think. 

•Worry less and strive to reduce your fears .Years from now you'll shake your head at the way minor matters used to trouble you. 

•Keep your word. Do what you say you will do. 

•Be reluctant to asign bad motives to others. Most of us are blundering ,not conspiring. 

•There are many times when it's better to be kind than clever. 

•Each break-up brings you closer to the person whose right for you. 

•Learn as much as you can, about as many things as you want. 

•Don't manage your time. Invest it. 

•Actions rule your life, words only help. 

Mama Africa Part. 1

There's something about Mandela and Sankara that just always makes one feel proud of being an African. I don't know what that is, but you read about this two personalities and you're just proud to be black. Africa as much as its underdeveloped, it's one of the best things that God ever made me come across in my life. Yeah. Majority of the population is poor, but the ones that have it ,they don't mind sharing the little they have (That was long before "they" came and changes the system). 

Look at African men. Men that fought for a course they knew nothing about but they just did it. They wanted to liberate us from the colonial rule. People who were basically ruining the sense of Africanism in us by forcing us to neglect our ways of life to copy theirs😑.

We adopted their lifestyle but in many ways, I admire the African lifestyle of the past than the modern Africa. Minimal vices. Just brotherhood. One wise leader. Huge Families. No city hullabaloo and some that I even don't wanna mention. More of the Africa we read in books than the one that we in. Right now, things are rough. Africanism bullshit put A-side till further notice. Brothers turn against brothers. Leaders only look at theirs and their families welfare. We're just in shambles. 

I don't blame anyone for this but yoh, you thought copying "their" lifestyle would make you them?? (Funny, though it worked for afew in French colonies) lets just face it. We are Africans and we are better than them. Even if it's in a few areas, the key thing here is WE ARE BETTER THAN THEM. 

We don't wanna be like them. Our ancestors lived without "them" .Nothing weird befell them. They led a normal peaceful life. No wars. Death was timely and natural. Only common diseases. Basically, they never died prematurely. That's just my thought anyway. 

I'm not trying to imply anything but you guystry deciphering this Thomas Sankara Statement for me. "THIS STRUGGLE TO DEFEND THE TREES AND FORESTS IS ABOVE ALL STRUGGLE AGAINST IMPERIALISM, BECAUSE IMPERIALISM IS THE ARSONIST SETTING FIRE TO OUR FORESTS AND SAVANNAHS"~Thomas Sankara(Burkina Faso's prematurely murded first president).For awhile, I was taken back after reading this and I realized why Africa is ever in Chaos. But that's a story for another day. 

Above:NelsonMandela

.           Above:Thomas Sankara. 

All in all, I support Mandela I support Mandela's Ideology. He tried showing us that we Africans should rule ourselves with our own ideologies and we don't need foreign ideologies to better us and also by Sankara's philosophy of supporting ourselves as Africans. Sankara once said ," The one who feeds you usually imposes his will on you. " and that hit hard. 

So fellow Africans, please, don't cut off your roots. That what I'm trying to tell you in all this paragraphs. Don't overstress yourself wishing you were someone else. That's basically what I'm telling you. Love you and where you come from. Love the blood that flows in you and treasure your ancestors teachings. They are the ones that fought to liberate us from the people who tried to take us from our own ways and take all we owned. Finally, I love you mama Africa.